One of the cornerstones of a healthy and strong relationship is trust, and trust is one of our 6 Secrets To Keeping Long Term Love. Trust in relationships takes time and effort to build, and can be destroyed in the blink of an eye, sometimes irreparably. In this post, we look at how to build trust in relationships with ten ways to become trustworthy and more trusting.
- Do what you say & be consistent in your behaviour. Don’t be a hypocrite and don’t have double standards.
- Don’t lie. Don’t embellish the truth. No-one believes or trusts a chronic liar. Trustworthy people don’t lie, cheat or steal.
- If you do lie, admit your lies & apologise for past indiscretions. Disclaimer: this can cause the other person to lose trust in you, but is a better alternative to having a lie found out.
- Give information & share secrets/personal information. Entrusting someone with these details exhibits your confidence and trust in them.
- Keep secrets of others & don’t gossip. People who often talk and gossip about others are often seen as being untrustworthy. Keeping personal information about others to yourself shows that you are trustworthy and above gossip, which is the “lowest form of discourse” (Jacqueline Bisset).
- Express your true feelings. If you love someone, let them know; if you dislike something, also let them know (but tactfully!). Honest people are more trustworthy.
- Honour your promises. It can be as simple as being punctual, but show that if you make a commitment or promise, you follow through on them. If you tell someone you’ll do something, do it.
- Demonstrate a strong moral ethic. Stand up for things you believe in. Show others that you support good causes. People are more easy to trust when they have good morals, do good things, and care for others.
- Be objective & show neutrality in difficult situations. Show fairness and diplomacy when dealing with others. For example, in situations that involve personal conflicts of interest: for example, arguments between two friends or family members. You are judged by others on the nature of your own judgements.
- Don’t let baggage from the past cloud/interfere with trust issues of the present. Many times it can be events of the past that affect our trust issues of the present. These issues can sometimes stem from your own behaviour or your own moral compass. Sometimes becoming more trustworthy and more trusting comes from within, after some introspective thought.
Are you as trustworthy as you’d like to be? What do you do in relationships to build trust?