5 More Signs Someone Really Likes You

The previous post on 5 Signs Someone Really Likes You was just not long enough to cover all the signs, so here we’ll look at five more signs that someone really likes you. In addition to the five signs from the first post:

1. Their body language
2. Calling for no reason
3. Their friends know about you
4. Giving you attention
5. Occasional, subtle passive aggressive behaviour

You should also look out for the following five:

6. Telling you personal secrets
Trust is important in a close personal relationship and if someone tells you their personal secrets, they are expressing trust and confidence in you. In the same way that they want to know more about you if they really like you, they will tell you about themselves, often with more personal details than they might otherwise confide in others. Sharing secrets is one way of strengthening the bond between two people.

7. Checking you out when you’re not looking

If you catch them staring at you, and they look away, perhaps with a blush or a smile, when you notice them, this is a good sign that they like you. Tied in with sign #1 (their body language), they’ll give you lots of eye contact when engaged in conversation, and they might just check you out when you think they’re not looking. Particularly if they have limited time with you, they will spend as much time as possible looking at you because you are physically appealing to them.

8. Defending you

As with sign #4 (giving you attention), when you are in trouble of some form, they will try to help you out, and this extends to defending you when you are being personally attacked in some way or another. The usual form of this defending for both sexes is verbal, and this is even more prevalent with so many ways to communicate these days: Twitter, Facebook, YouTube, and many other social networks and media sharing sites. Our opportunities to share information have never been greater, but with this comes more bullying and attacking of others, particularly under the veil of anonymity the internet affords.

9. Complimenting & supporting you

They will attempt to make you feel good by complimenting you and supporting your endeavours. They will pay good attention to you and remember things about you. They might notice, for example, that you’ve styled your hair differently (or just had a haircut) or that you’re wearing new clothes or a new scent, and compliment you on it. They will ask about the activities in your life and the things that interest you, and support, encourage and cheer you on. They will congratulate your successes and commiserate with you when things don’t go to plan.

10. Trying hard to impress you

It might be that they dress better or change their appearance in some way to get your attention. It could be that they laugh a little too hard at a joke that, quite frankly, isn’t really that funny (particularly if, like me, you use dad jokes a little too often). They might get you a gift – with or without a reason, like a birthday or Christmas – that clearly shows they have thought a lot about what your tastes are like and what you might need or want. They might rearrange even the most hectic or inflexible of schedules, just to spend a short amount of time with you. Whichever example you think about, they are trying hard to impress you and go above and beyond the normal standards of friendship to do so.

As I wrote in the original post 5 Signs Someone Really Likes You, the more of the signs described above someone shows towards you, the higher the chance they are interested in you. And now that you know what some of the signs are, you can proactively adopt these to show those in your life who you care about, that indeed you actually do!

Can you tell whether someone really likes you or not? What gives you the best indication that someone does, in fact, like you? Share your signs with us by leaving a comment below.

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5 Signs Someone Really Likes You

Sometimes it’s hard enough to know exactly what your own feelings for someone else are, let alone trying to guess how they might feel towards you. In this post, we’ll touch on a few of the signs that someone really likes you and help reduce the sleepless nights and energy wasted on wondering what might be going on in their head and heart.

1. Their body language.

Try as we might, sometimes we just can’t hide our inner feelings and desires. Someone’s body language can tell you a lot about how someone feels subconsciously (or even consciously) towards you. One of the most important cues is eye contact. When you have their attention, you’ll get good eye contact. If things aren’t going so well, you’ll find their eyes wandering elsewhere – some warning signs are checking their watch, frequently checking their phone, and checking out people other than you. If they find you particularly attractive, you might find their eyes wandering slowly over your face in a triangular movement between the eyes and mouth.

They will directly or indirectly try to reduce the distance between the two of you – by standing closer to you or moving their chair closer. Do they mirror your posture or gestures subconsciously? They are likely to face you when talking to you – with their feet, arms or hands pointed towards you – in contrast to standing sideways or away from you. It shows that they are comfortable with being close to you.

If they smile more around you, it’s a good sign that they like you (or at least find you amusing). Think about when you smile – it’s when you’re happy, content or full of good feeling. They will appear to be in a better mood around you, and as a result, they’ll smile naturally (it’s pretty hard to hide a genuine smile). They may have had a bad day and will be initially tense/upset/angry/frustrated, but they’ll seem relaxed and happy around you after a few minutes. That’s a sure sign they enjoy your company.

And finally, light touching – of the arm or shoulder, for example – is a really strong indicator that this person is attracted to you. How do they react if you make light contact with them?

2. Calling for no real reason.

They might try to get your attention by calling or texting you for seemingly trivial things. How flimsy is their excuse for calling you? They might just be calling because they want to talk to you and hear your voice, but want to make up an excuse to seem less vulnerable. They might just contact you to tell you something that happened in their day or ask you about yours.

3. Their friends know about you.

If they’re happy to introduce you to their friends, it’s a good sign they like you. If they have feelings for you, they would have confided in at least one friend about you. If he/she really likes you, they’ll give you a warm introduction (and might even brag about you) to their friends.

4. Giving you attention.

As I mentioned in my post on Modern Day Dating & Scheduling Dates, attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity, so if you have someone’s attention, it’s a sure-fire sign that they like and enjoy your company. The attention can take many forms: they might, for example, ask you a lot of genuine questions about yourself (and, in particular, if you’re single or not or whether you have a love interest yourself). This will be because they have felt some kind of attraction towards you and they’ll be interested in finding out more to see how compatible you really are.

They might prioritise you over other people and activities – or organise their own activities in such a way that the chances of meeting you increase. If you’re upset or in poor health, they might try making you feel better in some way – by visiting you (or if it’s contagious, sending you or saying something comforting). They might try offering assistance when help is needed – moving house, for example, or painting a room. Many of us have a hard time putting our feelings into words, and it’s much easier and subtler to show people how you feel and that you care about them. Actions speak louder than words, as I detailed in 10 Ways To Surprise Your Partner.

5. Occasional, subtle passive aggressive behaviour.

When someone really likes you, their behaviour can be occasionally and subtly passive aggressive. Partly because sometimes strong feelings can be confusing and hard to deal with, but also because they are invested emotionally in you. You can upset them without even knowing – it might be not returning a message for a few days or not inviting them on a night out, when they were in fact really looking forward to hearing from you or seeing you. When you really like someone, there is a tendency to over-think things and take things personally.

The more of the signs described above someone shows towards you, the higher the chance they are interested in you. In the end, it all boils down to whether or not this person gives you their time and attention. Because if you really like someone, you’ll find time to spend with them, and when you’re with them, you’ll give them all your attention.

You can read about some more signs that someone likes you, including telling you personal secrets and defending you, in our follow-up post, 5 More Signs Someone Really Likes You.

Can you tell whether someone really likes you or not? What gives you the best indication that someone does, in fact, like you?